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#1 Lin-quitting

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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:26 AM

They said:

(1) that quitting was possible. I didn't really believe it. I am 60 years old and have (HAD!) been smoking heavily for 42 years. I was the typical "but I LOOOOVE smoking, I'm more addicted than everyone else" blah blah smoker. Well, here I am, 6 1/2 months clean. They were right: you CAN quit!

(2) that being a contributing member of QSMB would be an important part of a successful quit. Oh my yes! The information and education I have found on here, the help and motivation I have found on here, the validation I have found on here, and even the friendships I feel I have made on here.....not just important, but essential to where I am today. I will forever be grateful to QSMB and the people on here for helping to give me my life back. Old phartes right again!

(3) that it gets easier if you will just hang tough. Of course in month 1 everyone thinks they're gonna die from this, and nothing will ever be easy or good again. And then my months 4 and 5 freaked me out because I though it should be getting easier and it was rougher than ever.....but in month 7 really I'm sailing along and all I have to do is remember every day that NOPE is my life now. It's not that hard anymore. Chalk another one up for the old phartes.

(4) that one day smoking will just be something I used to do, nothing I even think much about most days. I'm not there yet - but I think I can see it in the distance. Since the old phartes have been so right so far, I'm just gonna believe them on this one too. I'm gonna keep believing and living the NOPE life, and believe that eventually smoking will mean nothing more to me than something gross I stupidly used to do.

 

Thanks to all the old phartes who hang around here giving their time and expertise and inspiration to we newbies!


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#2 Jeni

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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:43 AM

Awesome post, Lin!

You have been such an amazing member and contributed so much in your time here.

Thank you for being here, and for helping so many along the way! :)
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:51 AM

You are here to pass it on, Lin.  There are many new quitters and lurkers reading your words right now.

 

Keep up the great work!!  :)


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:52 AM

They said:
(1) that quitting was possible. I didn't really believe it. I am 60 years old and have (HAD!) been smoking heavily for 42 years. I was the typical "but I LOOOOVE smoking, I'm more addicted than everyone else" blah blah smoker. Well, here I am, 6 1/2 months clean. They were right!
(2) that being a contributing member of QSMB would be an important part of a successful quit. Oh my yes! The information and education I have found on here, the help and motivation I have found on here, the validation I have found on here, and even the friendships I feel I have made on here.....not just important, but essential to where I am today. I will forever be grateful to QSMB and the people on here for helping to give me my life back. Old phartes right again!
(3) that it gets easier if you will just hang tough. Of course in month 1 everyone thinks they're gonna die from this, and nothing will ever be easy or good again. And then my months 4 and 5 freaked me out because I though it should be getting easier and it was rougher than ever.....but in month 7 really I'm sailing along and all I have to do is remember every day that NOPE is my life now. It's not that hard anymore. Chalk another one up for the old phartes.
(4) that one day smoking will just be something I used to do. Nothing I even think much about most days. I'm not there yet - but I think I can see it in the distance. Since the old phartes have been so right so far, I'm just gonna believe them on this one too. I'm gonna keep believing and living the NOPE life, and believe that eventually smoking will mean nothing more to me than something gross I stupidly used to do.
 
Thanks to all the old phartes who hang around here giving their time and expertise and inspiration to we newbies!


Amazing. ..,isn't it? I feel exactly this way. Who would have thought?
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:53 AM

Great post, Lin!  You are helping many people here too.  QSMB is lucky to have you.


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#6 giveintowin

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Posted 20 September 2017 - 01:11 AM

Nice post LQ. It's so important to get the right support and info when quitting.  I'm so grateful for the support you gave me and am glad you're quit. :)


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 01:19 AM

Yes, Lin....you are so right about what the old phartes say!! My story is very similar to yours and I am about a month ahead you in quitting. I marvel at the fact that at this point in time the triggers and cravings have lessened so much for me which is a good thing!!! You dove in and have been a major contributor here and have been an inspiration to me and many others here at QSMB...thanks!!!

 

I do have to work on quitting the chocolate and cookies as my clothes are getting a bit tight!!! Starting a dharma yoga class next Monday which should help me get in the right frame of mind to get back in shape!  :grin:


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 01:50 AM

Great post Lin, and so true! Your posts are so well thought out and supportive that sometimes I forget that you aren't an old pharte yet :) And I too am so glad I listened to the old phartes :)
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 06:55 AM

It is amazing isn't it - how right the experienced quitters have been in everything they have been telling us. Reading their stories & those of my fellow 2017 SmokeBusters (like you) are a huge help in staying quit. Thanks for helping to share our gratitude.
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 07:23 AM

Wonderful post, Lin!  You are a true asset to this community and we are happy you are here.  Thanks for reaching out to me during my S.O.S. the other day.

 

And, yes.  I will continue to listen to the old phartes as well.  Slow and steady...


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 08:08 AM

"Pay it forward" :arrow:  :idea:

 

The first time I read this phrase was on QSMB ( I think it was by Soul).

Your doing exactly this Lin. Well done :smile:

 

"The concept was rediscovered and described by Benjamin Franklin, in a letter to Benjamin Webb dated April 25, 1784:

I do not pretend to give such a deed; I only lend it to you. When you [...] meet with another honest Man in similar Distress, you must pay me by lending this Sum to him; enjoining him to discharge the Debt by a like operation, when he shall be able, and shall meet with another opportunity. I hope it may thus go thro' many hands, before it meets with a Knave that will stop its Progress. This is a trick of mine for doing a deal of good with a little money.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, in his 1841 essay Compensation,[2] wrote: "In the order of nature we cannot render benefits to those from whom we receive them, or only seldom. But the benefit we receive must be rendered again, line for line, deed for deed, cent for cent, to somebody."

In 1916, Lily Hardy Hammond wrote, "You don't pay love back; you pay it forward."[1]" WIKIPEDIA


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 10:15 AM

Great post Lin.

You have become such a strong member of this board and now you can pass this message on - keep going you are doing just FAB!!


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 11:47 AM

Great post Lin-quitting..

I believe in the olde phartes too and am sooooo thankful for them lighting the way.. :D
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:14 PM

Hi Lin you have been such a support to me and I can't wait to be where you are and not even thinking about smoking the whole time. I'm not really constantly thinking of it but it's more than I would like but I'm relatively early in my quit. Thanks again for being there with words of wisdom for all of us!!!!


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:16 PM

Lin - A wonderful post to read this morning. Thanks and you are so right about trusting the old phartes along the journey!
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:19 PM

Great post Lin!   (you are going to be an awesome Old Pharte)


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 12:32 PM

Yes - they are certainly wise and were RIGHT. Thanks to them and you as well, for all your support.


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 02:31 PM

Lin.  Excellent post and all so very true.  I also want to thank all the old pharts and everyone else on QSMB that shares their experiences. 


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Posted 20 September 2017 - 03:11 PM

Lin,
So glad to hear that things are becoming easier. The first time I remember "forgetting" about smoking for a whole day was amazing. It sounds like it will happen soon for you too! Can't wait!!
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Posted 20 September 2017 - 03:22 PM

I LOVE this post! Keep up the good work. :)


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