I found QSMB when I had been quit for 6 weeks, how I wish I had discovered it on day one. The first few weeks of any quit are difficult to say the least, but I had so many weird things going on, I didn't know what was quit related and what wasn't, at times I felt I was about to spontaneously combust !
I found other web sites, message groups, forums etc. but they just weren't right, they were too stuffy, or looked complicated or seemed too formal and scary, and I didn't want scary because I was terrified of the big step I was taking, to quit cold turkey after 42 years, so, I have decided to randomly list why I think this message board, our message board is the best in the world, I hope you can add some other reasons too.
1: Everyone is friendly, probably because we are all in it together, we all know that we are going through, or been through together.
2: I adore the way we welcome Newbies and make them instantly feel at home with us. I love the way we offer them knowledge, support, lots of hugs, sympathy, encouragement, education, friendliness and feelings of safety and security.
3: I feel immensely proud of our newbies, that they very soon have the confidence to offer support and knowledge to other people who join us, even in the very first few days of their quit. I love watching them develop, this makes me quite emotional.
4: I find the way we bond to be unlike any other bonding situation, I think it is the realisation that no one here is going to judge them, we have all been used to being judged during our smoking years,almost all of us were ashamed to smoke, many of us have been secret smokers, but on our message board we can be ourselves. Before I quit I would avoid even talking about smoking, I was so much in denial, and I was permanently ashamed. Here we can talk about every dreadful detail of smoking and our smoking history.
5: We are quitters, whether we have been quit for years or hours we are all addicts who are determined to rid our bodies of lethal chemicals that will, one way or another, kill us if we continue to smoke.
6: I love the diversity of the members. People from all different walks of life, different countries, different ages, all with interesting stories, all with different personalities, I love the way we all get to know one another, and the way friendships are made. The camaraderie is fantastic and so much fun
7: The SOS system is beyond belief and has stopped many people losing their quit.We all have wobbles when giving up smoking, but for the times we simply cant cope on our own, our wonderful members will drop everything to help their peers.
I get emotional because this board has been here for me, we have sad times when one of our friends become ill, and we have fun times when we celebrate milestones with each other. There is respect and gratitude and achievement.
This should perhaps have been posted on the gratitude thread, but I just wanted to say thank you to all for the amazing web site we all have had a little input in creating,
Love to you all xxx