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#21 G67

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Posted 05 February 2017 - 03:55 AM

Hang in there Jill.
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Posted 05 February 2017 - 06:05 AM

Sorry to hear about you having a tough day, Jillar. You know better than thinking cigarette will improve it. We are the lucky ones, not the smokers. We managed to escape the hell :)


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Posted 05 February 2017 - 07:24 AM

Hi Jillar, I hope that today is a better day for you. We are all right behind you. You do not smoke, you will not smoke. You do have a choice though. Smoke and poison your lungs or dont smoke and be healthier and therefore happier!! Stay strong!!!
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Posted 05 February 2017 - 01:38 PM

I'm sorry things are going rough for you, Jillar, but it has been said often here that smokers don't "get" to smoke, they "have" to smoke.  They are feeding that horrible addiction, not enjoying it.  A lot of them are envious of people like you who aren't chained down by this addiction.

Unfortunately, as ex-smokers, the addiction will always be part of us.  The further we go in our quits, the more dormant it becomes, but it will occasionally show its ugly head.  You just have to remember how hard you fought and how much better things are not being tied down by this addiction.

To quote Darryl, a member that was active early on in my quit, "I would rather be an ex-smoker who craves a cigarette once in a while than be a smoker who always wants to quit"

I hope things get better for you, Jillar.  You've done a lot to help and inspire others here.  Nothing good will come out of lighting up a cigarette.


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#25 Lust4Life

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Posted 05 February 2017 - 01:58 PM

Perfectly natural to have a bad day. Perfectly natural to look at someone and wish you could "get" to smoke. If these thoughts are not all consuming, and don't occur everyday--I think they're allowed & expected from time to time--it's part of the process.

I get a twinge if I'm out, having a cocktail & see people smoking outside. Sipping their drink, puffing away...

Then they come inside and stink up the place.

Then I remember watching the frazzled hairdresser , desperately searching for her lighter and that breeze-free corner.

For every image we see that makes us ponder the "why not me?"
--there are countless more that make us sigh in relief "so glad it is not me!"

Today will be a better day Jillar the Pillar!
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Posted 05 February 2017 - 02:21 PM

Jillar, JukeBox and others... I get those hard times too, just don't (as Jillar says) talk about it much.  Time cures all and I truly believe in what Christian says.  

 

Now to say I have been working it for over 18 months now and it is getting better and easier. Evolving to one rock solid quit :)


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Posted 05 February 2017 - 02:37 PM

I feel your pain Jillar. I have the same thoughts as you but keep telling myself I've come to far to fail now. Keep up the good and awesome work. We will beat this addiction!! Sending good vibes your way today. Xoxo
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Posted 05 February 2017 - 02:48 PM

Jill, all I have to add is it will get easier with time. I do not remember the last time I wanted a cigarette.

You will get there. You're doing great! Be proud my friend!    :)


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Posted 05 February 2017 - 03:38 PM

To Jillar,

I just joined this place 1 week ago today and just so you know, you and some others on this board have been a guiding light to me in these early days of my quit. I wish I could give you some support back at this time but unfortunately, I'm too new to all this to offer any profound advice as to how to overcome these struggles. I'm pretty sure you will find a way to continue you're battle and that the bad days will become fewer and farther between as time goes on. All I do know is that we are all better off not smoking than we ever were when we were smokers. 

 

Just wanted you to know that you have a lot of respect and support on this board and hopefully that helps you through the tough days.

 

G.M.


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The process of quitting smoking doesn’t end with the last cigarette. It’s not quitting itself, the real key is staying quit!

 

 

 


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Posted 05 February 2017 - 04:14 PM

Me! Me! ME!.... Here I am handing out all my very special Mummy Cuddles to all my friends who are feeling a little vulnerable today.... but only if I can share that Ice cream!


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#31 Jillar

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Posted 05 February 2017 - 04:30 PM

Thanks for all the words of wisdom you guys, today's a whole new day and I got past that terrible yesterday with my eight plus months intact, whewww! Luckily days like that are so few and far between now, otherwise I would be pulling out my hair and bald by now lol. Have a great super bowl Sunday everyone and thanks again :)
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Things began to get better when I realized I would remain quit even if things never got any better.

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We say here that it is better to be a nonsmoker with the occasional desire to smoke than a smoker with the constant desire to quit. Marciem
Being successful doesn't mean that you'll never GET to smoke again. It means that you'll never HAVE to smoke again.


#32 d2e8b8

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Posted 05 February 2017 - 10:05 PM

Wow, Jill, sorry to hear about the day ...

 

And happy to hear you went past it (with the help of some ice cream and Sal).

 

I too keep thinking it's time we were past such days but they come up.  I've had the flu last week - first one as a non-smoker - and guess what kind of triggers come out to greet you ... so silly.

 

Stay strong my friend ..


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Posted 05 February 2017 - 10:27 PM

Jillar,

 

             I know exactly how you feel because I have posted about in the past. Thanks to this board and people like you I have got past thoughs trying times as well.

Keep up a good fight and we all can make this work. Again thanks for your support on this site. STAY STRONG!!!   KTQ!!! 


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Posted 06 February 2017 - 12:31 AM

Jill my friend,
If "you "can't" smoke is truly the problem", then PRESTO!!!
You CAN smoke now!! You have my permission!!!!!!
Now, you no longer HAVE to quit! You CHOOSE to, and you CAN!
Feel any different? Hmmmmmmm, that must not have really been true then.
We all have the pity party moments. The times you have to fake it til you make it.
And you will make it. As long as you continue to abstain while dealing with the emotions, you
will win. Each time you can force them back, they get weaker. Each time you come here and
talk about these feelings, you get stronger. We all do. This is a huge life change. Ask yourself
specifically what part you miss? Inhaling something that but for added chemicals would burn your
throat? The damage each puff does? Or, maybe that fresh , " I just had one smell", that permeates the room?
The expense? Or maybe the anxiety when you realize you are out? The shortness of breath, or the things you can't
do any longer? The comraderie of slow suicide? Hmmmmmm, it's hard to choose huh? Maybe you miss the smokers
wardrobe. Hmmmmmmm. What I know is I enjoy my new friend. I enjoy the strength you show, and the ability
to digest information. Keep posting, keep thinking, keep learning, and keep the quit.
You are doing great.

Gon
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Smoking is no longer an option for me. I no longer smoke. Smoking is just something that I used to do
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Smoking is not treatment. Smoking is the cause.

The usual outcome is only that, because you let it be. The "quitter's" outcome is because we "make it be".

Beat the urge, and the urge will stop beating you.

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Posted 06 February 2017 - 01:30 AM

I'm sorry you're having a tough day, Jill.  It happens.  Less and less often, but it does happen, and makes you wonder if this will every be over.

 

Here's some ice cream, Death by Chocolate of course!

 

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and some Temptations ... dance and sing, that will get the cigarettes off your brain!

 

 

OMG!!! FOOD PORN!!! *joygasm*

 

 

 

 

Stay strong Jill. You got this.  You are doing amazingly well. 


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Posted 06 February 2017 - 05:31 PM

Yeah, stay strong Jillar..........But we all know very well that feeling.

 

I thought the other day what if.......if I started back smoking at 6 months? That would've meant this quit was a thing of the past and long gone........How depressing. Our bodies STILL have a lot of healing to do.........I'm glad you made this thread if not just to let others know that this is still at this point an on going thing.......Easier? Yes, but still requires effort.


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It's easier to keep a quit than to start one.

 


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Posted 07 February 2017 - 03:20 AM

Thanks for all the words of wisdom you guys, today's a whole new day and I got past that terrible yesterday with my eight plus months intact, whewww! Luckily days like that are so few and far between now, otherwise I would be pulling out my hair and bald by now lol. Have a great super bowl Sunday everyone and thanks again :)

 

This is all you have to keep doing...

NTAP.

Seriously.


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#38 Jillar

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Posted 20 March 2017 - 02:38 AM

Bump for those who need it :) I was eight months quit btw....
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Things began to get better when I realized I would remain quit even if things never got any better.

Christian99 16 Years Quit

We say here that it is better to be a nonsmoker with the occasional desire to smoke than a smoker with the constant desire to quit. Marciem
Being successful doesn't mean that you'll never GET to smoke again. It means that you'll never HAVE to smoke again.


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Posted 20 March 2017 - 04:34 PM

I must have missed this first time through.  I perceive Jill as one of the people who have this thing hands down entirely under control.  I am reminded of how vulnerable we all are no matter how long it;s been, or how hard we fight.  I am stronger now.  Peace.   


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Posted 20 March 2017 - 05:22 PM

That's why I wanted to bump it stevo. It's so easy for us, even after only a few weeks quit, to think we have it under control. Not sure if I ever will, but it sure is FINALLY getting much, much better and easier this past month just like those old phartes said it would :)


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Things began to get better when I realized I would remain quit even if things never got any better.

Christian99 16 Years Quit

We say here that it is better to be a nonsmoker with the occasional desire to smoke than a smoker with the constant desire to quit. Marciem
Being successful doesn't mean that you'll never GET to smoke again. It means that you'll never HAVE to smoke again.





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