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#41 ollie

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Posted 06 March 2016 - 07:49 PM

A update on Tony,s condition...
He has spent the whole of February in hospital....and hopefully he will come home tomorrow...
One chest infection after another...
If he comes home...it will be with a team of carers,s...to wash ,dress,shave of a morning...
Tony is the youngest person they have to tend too....
Wheel chair bound...
Our grandson plays football,and rugby...he is 10 years old...
His grandad has never been able to have a kick about with him...always been too sick...
Don't ever question your quit...never romance the cigarette....
There is NO cure for C .O. P..D.....
Quitting may for some be uncomfortable for a while...but lung desease is far more uncomfortable..
Congrats to all here...xx
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Posted 06 March 2016 - 10:17 PM

This is why i quit. This. I want to be around to see my childrens weddings and their babies. Sometimes we, I , forget just exactly why i quit . (The very real possibility of cancer or other veey serious diseases

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Posted 07 March 2016 - 02:47 AM

Much love to both of you, Nancy and Ollie! What a powerful illustration!
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Posted 07 March 2016 - 08:03 PM

Thanks for the post Ollie! Very true. Quitting may be a bit uncomfortable put not quitting is extremely painful! Never question your quit. Sometimes fear is our best motivator.

#45 marciem

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Posted 04 May 2016 - 04:38 PM

Time to bump this powerful thread, for newer quitters.

 

Be sure to read the updates contained in the thread, please.  It just might help save a shakey quit.

 

Thanks again for sharing, Nancy and Doreen (Ollie)


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Better to be a nonsmoker with an occasional desire to smoke, than a smoker with a constant desire to quit.
Remember: everything bad about quitting is temporary, and everything good about quitting is permanent. TimidTulip
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#46 Jryan19982

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Posted 04 May 2016 - 06:08 PM

Good bump.  Any updates?


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I GOT THIS

One puff and I'm back where I started. Where I started was desperately wishing to be where I am right now.

1.  If you feel like smoking today, just make it through today and see how you feel tomorrow.  

2.  If tomorrow comes and you still feel like smoking, go back to #1.  

Just make it through one more day!

Any day you wake up and are alive and kicking is better than the alternative.  Do you want to speed up that process by smoking?  Not me.   

 

 

 


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Posted 04 May 2016 - 07:26 PM

Thank you Marciem for keeping this post going...and thank you my dear friend Nancy...for keeping me in the loop..
Thank you jryan for asking ...a update....
Tony went for his oxygen level test today... This is a very painful procedure....
They take blood from the wrist..just above the top of your hand...it is in a very delicate place...
This is necessary to see if the oxygen he has at home is set to the correct amount..it was,.
Since my last update tony has been on two courses of antibiotics and steroids...
The carers are still coming in every day...they have cut his showers down ..as it takes his breath away so much..
If your a newbie...please dont ever question your decision...smoking has caused this...I'm sure if Tony could turn back the clock and quit ..he would...Keep your quit...
My regards to you all...
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#48 marciem

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Posted 04 May 2016 - 07:35 PM

Thank you Marciem for keeping this post going...and thank you my dear friend Nancy...for keeping me in the loop..
Thank you jryan for asking ...a update....
Tony went for his oxygen level test today... This is a very painful procedure....
They take blood from the wrist..just above the top of your hand...it is in a very delicate place...
This is necessary to see if the oxygen he has at home is set to the correct amount..it was,.
Since my last update tony has been on two courses of antibiotics and steroids...
The carers are still coming in every day...they have cut his showers down ..as it takes his breath away so much..
If your a newbie...please dont ever question your decision...smoking has caused this...I'm sure if Tony could turn back the clock and quit ..he would...Keep your quit...
My regards to you all...

Thank you so much for the update, Doreen... I know this isn't easy for you.

 

It is so important for people to recognize these dangers, not just as a statistic of a "maybe someday", but as happening to someone we "know" for real.  I know that your post and updates have helped others stay the course when the quitting going gets rough sometimes.  

 

So I thank you very much!!


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S.moking is N.ot an O.ption T.oday
Better to be a nonsmoker with an occasional desire to smoke, than a smoker with a constant desire to quit.
Remember: everything bad about quitting is temporary, and everything good about quitting is permanent. TimidTulip
Not a day will ever go by that life is 100% perfect. But 100% of the days are better not smoking jwg
I feel no matter my outcome, quitting was still hands down the best thing I ever did....r.i.p. jwg 12/28/13
Like John, no matter my own outcome, quitting smoking is hands down the best thing I've ever done... mlm 2/16/17                                                       


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Posted 04 May 2016 - 08:41 PM

Thanks for the update; I am sorry things are so rough at the moment.  

 

Was this disease diagnosed before your husband quit?  I assume it was since you mention that he smoked until he physically couldnt.  

 

Anyways, we are all here for you.     


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I GOT THIS

One puff and I'm back where I started. Where I started was desperately wishing to be where I am right now.

1.  If you feel like smoking today, just make it through today and see how you feel tomorrow.  

2.  If tomorrow comes and you still feel like smoking, go back to #1.  

Just make it through one more day!

Any day you wake up and are alive and kicking is better than the alternative.  Do you want to speed up that process by smoking?  Not me.   

 

 

 


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Posted 05 May 2016 - 10:59 PM

I am so sorry you and Tony are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 

I appreciate you sharing your story.


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#51 Jryan19982

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Posted 06 May 2016 - 02:13 AM

Indeed this is a great post for those who are thinking of giving up a quit. Thanks again for sharing your story I know it must be hard. We are all greatful.
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I GOT THIS

One puff and I'm back where I started. Where I started was desperately wishing to be where I am right now.

1.  If you feel like smoking today, just make it through today and see how you feel tomorrow.  

2.  If tomorrow comes and you still feel like smoking, go back to #1.  

Just make it through one more day!

Any day you wake up and are alive and kicking is better than the alternative.  Do you want to speed up that process by smoking?  Not me.   

 

 

 


#52 Loopy

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Posted 06 May 2016 - 03:04 AM

Thankyou for sharing ☺
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Posted 06 May 2016 - 08:54 AM

This story was one of many that keep me going in early days of my quit, when i was at turning point and was reading this board to calm myself down and find motivation to carry on


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#54 ollie

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Posted 06 May 2016 - 06:05 PM

Thank you for your kind replies...
Jyran...Tony smoked about 12 years after his first diagnosis...burying his head in the sand...
Stopping smoking slows this illness down...but there is no cure...
Helping people understand what this horrible illness does to the sufferer. And thier familys..is why i stay and post
I really appreciate all the support this wonderful place offers...
Love to all you lovely non smokers....feel proud...you are achieving what every smoker deep down wants xx
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Posted 06 May 2016 - 11:24 PM

Thank you for posting this Ollie. Much appreciated.

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Posted 27 July 2016 - 07:19 PM

Yeah my uncle has COPD, he suspects (or rather kowns) he had it before he quit but ignored every symptom until we couldnt.

 

He currently doesnt smoke, is on o2 at night, but can still do some things.  That being said, there is a lot he CANT do.  

 

its a terrible thing to deal with.  


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I GOT THIS

One puff and I'm back where I started. Where I started was desperately wishing to be where I am right now.

1.  If you feel like smoking today, just make it through today and see how you feel tomorrow.  

2.  If tomorrow comes and you still feel like smoking, go back to #1.  

Just make it through one more day!

Any day you wake up and are alive and kicking is better than the alternative.  Do you want to speed up that process by smoking?  Not me.   

 

 

 


#57 Jillar

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Posted 27 July 2016 - 07:45 PM

Thank you Nancy and Ollie for posting this and bumping it so that those who missed it (me) could read it. I will keep Tony in my thoughts. And Nancy thanks for sharing the beautiful pic of your daughter and hubby :)


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Posted 27 July 2016 - 11:09 PM

Wow.  Thank you, ladies, for sharing this. 



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Posted 29 July 2016 - 11:24 AM

Nancy has asked for a update ...
We seem to be in a regular routine now,a couple of weeks without antibiotics and steroids, and then one week blast course..a continuous cough...just have to recognise when the cough could turn in to a infection..
Keep infections and pneumonia at bay,is a daily battle...
The lung specialist can do no more...it's all about making him comfortable ..if he was younger and not as sick ,they could have took a lot of his right lung away...but it's gone past this stage..
The c.o.p.d nurses are trying him with a volumer..a glass tube..which you breath your inhaler from..to see if it helps...
He is at risk of going into hospital again..
Of course this has also took its toll on me..its a constant battle...
C.O.P.d / emphysema... This is a very cruel illness...that very slowly Robs you of your life..it leaves you with no dignity..
All you have left is doctors,hospitals,carers,
Don't even risk this happening to you and your loved ones..
If we had understood this terrible illness...it might have made all the difference..
Knowledge...learn about this illness..understand it.
And quit and stay quit.
All my best xx 


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Posted 29 July 2016 - 11:44 AM

Thank you Nancy and Ollie for sharing your story and bumping so us newbies can read a beautiful AND heartbreaking true life story. I personally never gave up for health reasons but you have both inspired me to keep my quit and made me all the more grateful that I did before smoking reduced me to lung disease (hopefully it's not going to still catch up with me later)
Strength to you Ollie. Your husband is very lucky to have such a caring and loving wife.
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