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#1 Kathleen0515

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 12:27 AM

Three years ago, I was you. Knowing that I should probably quit smoking but not believing I could do it. I "enjoyed" smoking. I was more addicted than other people. I wasn't strong enough. 

Two years, eight months ago, I was you. I had found this board and I started reading. I started thinking maybe I could actually do this. But I wasn't sure yet. 

Two years, two weeks, and 6 days ago, I was you. It was my first day quit and I was scared to death. I just wished I could go to sleep and wake up at 72 hours when the nicotine had left my system. It seemed like forever.

Two years, two weeks, and 3 days ago I was you. I actually hit that magic three day mark! I couldn't believe that I had gone that long without a cigarette. I looked at the members here with three months quit and I thought that could actually be me. I thought maybe I could really do this. Maybe.

Two years ago, I was you. I was starting to feel human again. I found myself going hours without thinking about a cigarette. I got glimpses of "normal", but it was a new normal, a better normal. I still looked at all those Old Phartes here as super humans. But they kept telling me I could, so I just kept believing.

One year, two weeks, and 6 days ago, I was you. It had happened! I crossed that magic one year mark. I was one of "them". A person I never believed I could be. Not just a nonsmoker, but a happy nonsmoker! I had people looking up to ME. I was telling people to just trust me, it gets better. I was looking back at my journey and realizing it hadn't been that hard after all. I finally believed everything I had been told.

 

Wherever you are in your quit at this very moment, one of us has been there. We understand how you're feeling. We know that some days quitting seems next to impossible. But it's not, because we did it.  We weren't stronger, or braver, or smarter. We were't less addicted. We just believed when we were told we could do this. We believed when we were told it gets better. We believed it would all be worth it. Now it's your turn to believe. In us, but more importantly, in yourself. 


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"Grammy, why are you putting smoke in your body?"

 

I stopped putting smoke in my body on June 28, 2012. 


#2 gonfishn21

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 12:36 AM

Really nice post.
Today was a good day to hear that.
Thanks.

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Smoking is no longer an option for me. I no longer smoke. Smoking is just something that I used to do
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Smoking is not treatment. Smoking is the cause.

The usual outcome is only that, because you let it be. The "quitter's" outcome is because we "make it be".

Beat the urge, and the urge will stop beating you.

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 12:51 AM

Really nice post.
Today was a good day to hear that.
Thanks.

Gon

 

Gon, you are always so full of support, wisdom and great advice that it's hard to think of you as a semi-new quitter. In fact, I was surprised when I looked at your ticker after reading your post! You give so much to so many here. I'm glad I was able to give you a little something back. (And don't forget to ask for help if you need it).


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"Grammy, why are you putting smoke in your body?"

 

I stopped putting smoke in my body on June 28, 2012. 


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:15 AM

Kathleen,
Thank you.
No risk here, just needed to remember that
I will get to the sweet spot where I feel physically better.

I appreciate the kind words.

Gon
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Smoking is no longer an option for me. I no longer smoke. Smoking is just something that I used to do
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Smoking is not treatment. Smoking is the cause.

The usual outcome is only that, because you let it be. The "quitter's" outcome is because we "make it be".

Beat the urge, and the urge will stop beating you.

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:26 AM

Thank you Kathleen. My quit has been relatively easy this time around. Some days I still have trouble believing. Especially believing in my long term quit. I smoked for 45 years. I was the person that believed she would never be a happy non smoker. The difference this time around is the knowledge I have gained here and the daily support from the caring members of this community. Only time will tell.
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#6 Kathleen0515

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:36 AM

You're so right coshaughnessy, time will tell! Coincidentally, I smoked for 45 years as well. So I really WAS you  :lol:. And I can tell you that I was pretty much still going through the motions at three months quit. I put on a brave face, but I wasn't happy. Well, I was happy I quit, but I wasn't happy being a nonsmoker. I'm sure you understand what I mean. But, I'm happy now. Very happy. You'll get there too....in time. I promise  :-)


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"Grammy, why are you putting smoke in your body?"

 

I stopped putting smoke in my body on June 28, 2012. 


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:37 AM

I do believe in myself Kathleen and I hold you responsible for a big part of that.

You have never wavered in supporting me and I have grown a really solid quit on top of that support. I am forever grateful.

The strength of this board is in all of sharing and providing the information that someone struggling cannot see at the time. Believing gave me the chance to experience it for myself.

I love my quit more each day.

Newbies put your faith in me like I put my faith in Kathleen. Living nicotine free is better than I ever imagined!
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Acceptance is the key.

 

Be grateful for the pain. We can not heal without it.

 

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:47 AM

Awesome post Kathleen!!!  This is a must-read for newbies.


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:48 AM

You're so right coshaughnessy, time will tell! Coincidentally, I smoked for 45 years as well. So I really WAS you  :lol:. And I can tell you that I was pretty much still going through the motions at three months quit. I put on a brave face, but I wasn't happy. Well, I was happy I quit, but I wasn't happy being a nonsmoker. I'm sure you understand what I mean. But, I'm happy now. Very happy. You'll get there too....in time. I promise  :-)


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 01:49 AM

Great read!  


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 02:10 AM

I do believe in myself Kathleen and I hold you responsible for a big part of that.

You have never wavered in supporting me and I have grown a really solid quit on top of that support. I am forever grateful.

The strength of this board is in all of sharing and providing the information that someone struggling cannot see at the time. Believing gave me the chance to experience it for myself.

I love my quit more each day.

Newbies put your faith in me like I put my faith in Kathleen. Living nicotine free is better than I ever imagined!

 

Don, you were easy to support. I told you very early on I could spot a winner when I saw one. And you didn't prove me wrong  ;-)


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"Grammy, why are you putting smoke in your body?"

 

I stopped putting smoke in my body on June 28, 2012. 


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 02:59 AM

Kathleen,
You gave me a lot if support and on my first day reading this forum I looked at your grandsons face with those precious eyes and I could see him asking you "why do you put smoke in your body" and it made me cry.
that little face of his stayed inside my head for a long time.

just thought I would tell you that and here I am at three months.

You are a gem Kathleen.
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Posted 21 January 2015 - 03:11 AM

You're very inspirational..always so supportive, and always kind.


Thank you for sharring something very meaningful, and helpful.

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Posted 21 January 2015 - 04:19 AM

Congrats Kathleen thanks for the inspiration along the way. Old Phartes are not "superhuman" but many are indeed super humans for showing the way and providing support you qualify


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 04:52 AM

Love it Kat. I was you too!!!
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Posted 21 January 2015 - 05:17 AM

Nice post :) 


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 08:15 AM

I always love reading your posts Kathleen - and I think this one mught become one of my favourites ! Awesome post as usual ! :-) :-) xx
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Posted 21 January 2015 - 11:29 AM

Oh the post is so wonderful, so real and motivational. Thank you so much.
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Posted 21 January 2015 - 12:07 PM

Kathleen, I love reading your posts. They're always down to earth & hit home. Thank you for the support you given not just to me, but to so many on here. I was/am you too! When I first quit, I kept telling myself that I had to start somewhere right? We all do. Now, at two months quit, I am happy with the quit. I try to think of one thing that I miss about smoking and, surprisingly (or maybe not), I can't think of a single thing that I miss. Everything you told yourself before your quit, I told myself too. Now, I feel healthier, happy, and less "sick feeling". It is, by far, one of the best decisions that I've every made for myself. Thanks again!


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Posted 21 January 2015 - 12:19 PM

What a post - and did I need it today! You have no idea how much reading that you too took time to adjust to being a non-smoker - even though you knew that was all you wanted to be - strengthens my resolve, as there are still times when I think I am never going to feel 'whole' again, even though I smoked for 40+ years and have only been quit for five months.................

I should do the maths!


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