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#1 Craig

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:04 PM

I get sad whenever I read about someone that relapses after rocking an awesome quit for weeks or months. I quit smoking 290 days ago and I'm extremely confident I'll never smoke again. Things were a little different on day 142 though. That's the day I almost smoked a cigarette.....

 

 

Day 142.

 

I have been romanticizing the cigarette for about a week now. I've been daydreaming about the simple joy of holding a cigarette between my fingers, the wonderful tobacco smell of a freshly opened pack, and the feeling of euphoria when taking that first drag. Mmmm....just thinking about it makes my pulse quicken in glorious anticipation. 

 

W. T. F.       

 

This is day 142! I'm "this close" to 5 months.  6 months (HALF A YEAR!) is within spitting distance. How the hell could I let myself get so damn complacent that I'm having thoughts like this? For the most part, my quit has been on auto-pilot for the last couple of months. I stopped actively "quitting" a long time ago. I didn't feel the need, or desire, to spend hours a day reading/posting about nicotine addiction like I did the first several weeks of my quit. 

 

I've lost my motivation and I'm tired of fighting. THAT right there scares the crap out of me. I do NOT want to be a smoker again. I will NOT be a smoker again. I REFUSE to be a smoker again. It is time to fix this thing and get my head back in this quit. 

 

During the early days of a new quit everything is so exciting. You are doing a Good Thing and it's AWESOME! YOU are AWESOME! Loved ones shower you with praise! Strangers on the internet tell you how wonderful you are! You can suddenly smell and taste All The Things! People at work give you high fives and fist bumps! There are parades in your honor! The mayor gives you the key to the city! TMZ hounds you for an interview! Life is FREAKING AMAZING!!!

 

And then, a few weeks or months later…..things change. Family and friends begin treating you the way they did before you quit. No more high fives. No more fist bumps. No one asks about your quit anymore. Even the paparazzi stop following you around. This “thing” (your quit) isn't fun anymore. Yeah, it’s gotten a lot easier to not smoke but you still sometimes get cravings from hell and you are SO TIRED of fighting. So tired. You feel lonely. You start to hear whispers in your head. It's a voice you thought you silenced a while ago. “Why don’t you just smoke one? It will taste and feel so good. You know you can quit anytime you want.” (My Inner Junkie has a seductive bedroom voice like Barry White and looks like a more sinister version of Wile E. Coyote. Stop judging me!)

 

Relapse was a very real option for me on day 142 (I'm on day 290 now). I am VERY thankful that I turned things around before it was too late. Some folks don’t. They smoke a cigarette and then a beautiful quit is lost…up in smoke.

 

I am only posting this to remind everyone, myself included, that we can never let our guards down. I KNOW why I got close to relapse. The reasons are as plain as day to me now:

 

1.    I stopped educating myself about my addiction.

2.    I greatly decreased the time I spent on this site because I didn't think I needed a support group any longer.

3.    I let a small seed of negative thought (daydreaming of smoking a cigarette) grow until it became a Really Bad Thing.

4.    I fooled myself into thinking I wasn't an addict any more.

 

What did I do to get my quit back on track?

 

1.    I re-read all the newbie info here and at whyquit.com

2.    I read Allen Carr’s book. (I read a little bit each day over the course of a couple of months. It was a good daily dose of inspiration.)

3.    I recommitted to spending time on this site reading and helping out where I could.

4.    I admitted to myself that I was always going to be an addict. I can NEVER become complacent again.

5.    I stopped random smoking thoughts IMMEDIATELY whenever I realized what I was thinking about. 

 

Have you come close to relapsing? What did you do to avoid it?

 

Have you relapsed after a weeks or months long quit? If so, why did it happen and what are you doing now to make sure it doesn't happen again?

 

 


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#2 kinkash

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:08 PM

Gosh....I wish you'd post more!!!!!!
Btw...that ticker is looking good.
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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:08 PM

This is a FREAKING awesome post Craig!  It is so important for the newbies to understand what can happen when the "newness" wears off. Thanks for sharing!


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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:12 PM

Thanks, Craig.


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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:16 PM

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:20 PM

Great post! THIS is educational and helpful! :)

 

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:21 PM

Great post Craig. I agree with Kinkash---wish you would post more.

LOL @ Barry White/Wile Coyote

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:30 PM

You write beautifully! I know for me around 6 months, the thrill was gone! Old news to anyone who knew me. I was still wanting to tell anyone that would listen because it really seemed like a miracle to me. I still wanted high fives and fist bumps! I don't think a day will go by as a non smoker that I won't be grateful that I finally got free!
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Posted 30 January 2014 - 09:38 PM

It's funny you said that because the same thing happened to me at year 10 on my first fifteen year quit. I was visiting my sister's in Washington and attending a bachelor party. Cigars and cigarettes were handed out to everyone and I was thinking, "no one will know back home if I have just one". Boy was the compulsion strong, but I got lucky, someone bought me a stripper and she got my attention completely off the smokes and by the time she was through my friends had consumed all of the cigarettes.

 

Now I don't recommend going to a strip club to distract you from smoking but if it wasn't for that dancer my quit might have ended in 10 years instead of 15.

 

As I mentioned in some of my recent posts, no matter how long you have quit for, that little devil of a voice is always there.

 

Cudos to you Craig, GREAT ADVICE TO NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN!!!


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Posted 30 January 2014 - 10:00 PM

It is important for me to focus on the positives, the rewards of quitting, as a way to assure I do not go back to smoking. I am on this board but every day I think about how wonderful I feel, how I am benefiting.



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Posted 30 January 2014 - 10:23 PM

Hii Craig, newbie here.

I can't relate to your almost relapse because I have not walked that mile in your shoes yet. What I do know is that I will hold very close to me what you said in your post and do my best to remember what can happen. Is it the possible chance that we get too comfortable in our quit? After all, we are smokaholics.

I am going to print your post and carry it with me to remind me what could happen. Just like young teenagers that think they are invincible at their age, we are not invincible as young smoke quitters. Us old farts can be cocky with our young quits but rely on the phartes to help us through this.

Thank you Craig for the excellent post and helping us.

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 10:33 PM

Oh Craig.
Craig Craig Craig.

I selfishly hereby request that you post more often.
Please.
Maybe it doesn't have to be daily (although that'd be sweet!) but how about a few times a week?
Could ya? Huh? Please?
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I really like your posts.
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Posted 30 January 2014 - 11:49 PM

That's why I'm sticking to the board like glue lol.

And that was a great post
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Posted 31 January 2014 - 12:40 AM

Awesome post Craig and a great reminder!


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Posted 01 February 2014 - 10:12 PM

Oh Craig.
Craig Craig Craig.
I selfishly hereby request that you post more often.
Please.
Maybe it doesn't have to be daily (although that'd be sweet!) but how about a few times a week?
Could ya? Huh? Please?
:)
I really like your posts.


See--told ya he had some good ones! I think Craig came out to post because he saw your pretty avatar picture! :) so now I am jealous cuz I am the self appointed president of the "Keep Craig's Posts Alive" society! But you can be a groupie too since you are one of the good eggs!
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Posted 01 February 2014 - 10:38 PM

Craig, always good to hear some wise words from you my friend. Kinda miss the chopsticks avatar though.

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Posted 01 February 2014 - 10:46 PM

Craig, always good to hear some wise words from you my friend. Kinda miss the chopsticks avatar though.


Is that why you have sushi in your signature? You need some chopsticks too! Now I am getting hungry!

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Posted 01 February 2014 - 11:47 PM

Great post. That is where I am at now. 168 days and while I have no intention or ( at this point anyway) desire to smoke I do have the blahs. Sorta like " where do I go from here?" feeling. So I can relate to what you are saying. Thanks for posting this. It helps to remind me and keep me focused.

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Posted 02 February 2014 - 01:21 AM

I just want to let everyone know that what Craig is saying is so true.  He was so smart to read up on all of the information so available here on this board when he knew his quit was in in danger. When he did that and the other things he listed he saved his quit.  I did not, I lost my quit after 5 months, because I did not have that education.  I quit again 7 months ago, now I make use of this board with all the support and education and will continue to be aware of my quit.  I know I am not missing anything by not smoking.  Thank you Craig. This information is so important for everyone to know and be aware of.


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Posted 02 February 2014 - 06:36 AM

Is that why you have sushi in your signature? You need some chopsticks too! Now I am getting hungry!


Haha. Life without sushi is no kind of life. I'm totally in favor of chopsticks for sushi, and forks for Chinese food.




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