We are nicotine addicts. We've wasted years, decades even, of our lives on this stupid addiction. We've lost loved ones to cigarettes. Our health has suffered. Some of us, even though we've quit, are STILL GOING TO DIE from smoking. We've spent more money on cigarettes than just about anything else in our lives.
Most of us are here because we recognize this forum will help us beat our addiction. We are FIGHTING FOR OUR LIVES here! This is SERIOUS!
There have been far too many relapses on this forum lately. There have been far too many people trying to justify their relapses and then get angry when their FELLOW ADDICTS give them s*** about it. And for crying out loud, if you want to leave the forum because you are upset then JUST STOP POSTING. There's no need to delete your account or even worse, go into full drama queen mode to post a "I'm leaving" thread. Just go. No drama.
Newbies (that includes those that have recently relapsed) need to realize something. You are SCREWED IN THE HEAD! I mean that in the nicest way possible but I do mean it. Your brain chemistry is all jacked up. Your mind is in panic mode because something it was tricked into thinking it needed is no longer there. I think it's the same thing for those with established quits that drop their guard and start romanticizing cigarettes(myself included). If we get lazy for a moment the junkie thinking can start right back again.
A few people don't like the "tough love" type of support some members here provide. I think we need more of it! I am an ADDICT fighting for my LIFE! Sugarcoating my failures and telling me anything other than the cold hard truth does me zero good.
In Army Basic Training we were treated like crap by the drill sergeants at first . We were yelled at, deprived of sleep, treated like children, cursed at, etc. It made life miserable. We began as undisciplined civilians. We were torn down then rebuilt as highly trained soldiers. Basic Training was not fun. My feelings were hurt more than once. BUT, when all was said and done, I emerged a stronger, better person.
This forum is like Basic Training in a way. We come here as smokers, or newly quit. We undergo a transformation here. We become nonsmokers. That journey may require some tough love or a few whacks with a big stick. Take it for what it is....people that CARE about your life trying to get YOU to care about your OWN life. Or, you can get upset, leave the forum and then go smoke a cigarette.
I know which path I am going to chose. What about you?