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#1 Eric

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Posted 30 May 2007 - 02:37 AM

Hey everyone,
First off I would like to say congratulations to all the newbies for quitting smoking, heck, congratulations to everyone for quitting smoking!! Though I would like to focus this post on the newer quitters who may not be feeling the comfort yet on not smoking.

Are you having a bad day? Is it feeling a little too overwhelming quitting smoking? Are the craves feeling too overpowering? Do you just want a cigarette to alieve these feelings and anxieties? Let's think about that first cigarette that's going to aleviate all these problems associated with quitting. Let's honestly really think about it before we light it up and feel all the quitting symptoms wash away.

Right now you're sitting there contemplating smoking. First off, think about that. Why can you contemplate smoking? Because ever since you quit, you now have a choice! The minute you quit smoking, you took control of your life again. You're no longer the puppet, you are now the puppeteer!!!

Before you take that cigarette and light it, think about what is going to happen. You're going to take your choice and option to smoke, tear those up and throw them away. Now you'll have 2 other options. You will either have to ritually smoke again of every waking moment to feel so called normal or you will once again have to put yourself through the first stages of withdrawal. Neither one sounds too appetizing.

Let's look at this first cigarette that your junkie side is telling you is the cure all for all these stupid problems and anxieties associated from quitting. Will you light up that cigarette, get that great AAAAAAAHHHHHHHH sensation, laugh and scold yourself for ever thinking of doing such a stupid thing as quitting smoking? Before you answer that I would like to share an experience that happened to me from a failed quit prior to this one.

Almost 5 years ago I had a 3 week quit going and I was feeling these urges and craves. It felt so overwhelming. I felt I was losing my mind. I was at work and unfortunalty we could smoke on the job. I was just looking around watching all my co workers smoking. I was envious! I was depriving myself (or so I thought) and it was driving me crazy! So after a half hour of letting my junkie side pound into my head that I needed a cigarette, I went to one of my co workers and bummed one off them. Now this where I should have stopped and thought about it first, but I didn't. I needed that AAAHHHHHHHHHH sensation and I needed it now!!!


So I lit that smoke(I can vividly remember this one cigarette to this day) and waited for that AAAHHHHHHHHH sensation to come to me. You know what I felt? It felt like someone took the heaviest wet blanket of depression and threw it on top of me. It literally felt like that. I got so dizzy. My vision was blurry. My heart felt like it was beating too fast. I felt nauseous and my body was shaking. I had to kneel down for allmost 10 minutes to re cooperate from that cigarette. What did I feel after that cigarette? I felt horrible, both mentally and physically.

You know after 3 weeks of not smoking, I told my friends that I really didn't feel any better from quitting. After that cigarette, I realized that I felt so much better, because the feeling of that heavy blanket was still with me after 30 minutes of smoking it. I bet you'll never guess what I also did 30 minutes later after smoking that cure all. Yep, I snuck out of the warehouse and walked across the street to the store and bought a pack of cigarettes. I gave up my choice and option of smoking. It took me 2 years to get up the courage to try and quit again. This time I got educated , made this one stick and I'm now over 3 years quit.

That day I thought that "One" cigarette was going to fix my problems and look what it did. It put me right back into the grip of addiction. This is why we have to erase the fantasy of smoking. Quitting smoking is never as good as "The Fantasy" of that "One Good Cigarette," but if we act on that fantasy, we will find out how devastating and how false that fantasy really is.

I guess the message of this really long post is that I know it can be hard. You will have your good days quitting and bad days quitting, but as long as you continue not to smoke, the good days will start to grow and the bad days will start to diminish until one day the bad days are nothing but a memory that you keep to remind you why you quit in the first place.
There might be times when a seasoned quitter will tell you "Hang in there, it will only get better." You might think to yourself (I know I did sometimes), "Easy for you to say, you allready found comfort."

The thing is, every seasoned quitter here had to go through all the same things the newbies are going through right now. There are no short cuts or magic potions. It will get better though, actually it will become fantastic ! If it didn't, I would be smoking right now. You just have to challenge yourself to do this. You deserve to break this addiction,. It is the best thing you can do for yourself! As the risk of sounding redundant, hang in there, because it will only get better and better if you Never Take Another Puff!

Eric
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#2 Sheila

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Posted 30 May 2007 - 02:44 AM

Thanks for sharing that Eric...
My story too, three different times :shock:
But, Now we know," the rest of the story..."

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Posted 30 May 2007 - 03:59 AM

This should be pinned. What an amazing story!! Thank you for sharing that, Eric.
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Posted 30 May 2007 - 04:25 AM

What a great post Eric...thank you it has helped me. I'm working on day 5 of being smoke free!!!

#5 Eric

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 05:41 AM

Please learn from my mistakes, not yours.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”~Rumi

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 12:31 PM

Excellent as always Eric! I'm smiling as I write this, actually smiling at how this story is so full of truth. Thanks.
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Posted 04 September 2007 - 03:03 PM

Well done, Eric. One of the things that really does sustain me is to take a moment now and then to remember my quits for other substances.

Alcohol: HUGE problem and a very slippery quit. That was 25 years ago. 'Not One Sip' is firmly lodged in my blood and bones--and I never think of alcohol. I feel no need or desire to drink. The thought simply doesn't compute.

Caffeine: Big, if not huge, problem and an agonizingly painful physical quit. Screaming coffee headaches. But all of that passed and today I feel no need for caffeine. Coffee doesn't fit into my lifestyle. No need or desire to drink it. The thought simply doesn't compute.

Now and then, when it's hard to imagine life without withdrawal, I take a breath and tell myself: I've been this way before. Withdrawal always ends and the day of peace arrives.

Miss Ciggy? She go bye-bye soon.
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Posted 05 September 2007 - 02:11 AM

thanks eric. this is a great post. i have just hit two months and am having some pretty strong urges lately - mostly in social situations. i love your perspective in this post - it is encouraging and inspires me to continue to REFUSE!!
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#9 Eric

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 09:12 PM

Never confuse a bad moment with eternity. Bad moments always pass. Let them pass without smoking.

That cigarette that I smoked that day was because I was having a bad day.

I thought that cigarette would help my day, but it didn't. It ruined that day and many many more after that.

Don't let a bad moment trick you into a ruined quit.

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#10 Eric

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Posted 09 January 2008 - 02:12 PM

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Posted 25 January 2008 - 03:15 AM

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The factor that really shows the addiction is not how hard or how easy it is to quit. What really shows the addiction is how universally easy it is to go back. One puff and the quit can go out the window.~Joel Spitzer

#12 Eric

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Posted 26 June 2008 - 07:09 PM

This is an old post. I've updated it before with the years and my quit, butr not going to bother anymore. So the years I talk about won't add up to how long I have been quit and that is the reason, but really think about it, before you light that cigarette.

Eric
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#13 RoseQuitSmoking

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Posted 26 June 2008 - 08:34 PM

That is totally the truth. Addicts cannot have just one.

Thanks for the story!
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#14 Christin

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 11:45 PM

Thanks Eric - Your OP is somewhat my experience also and nothing but the total truth. Thank you for reminding me - intellectually I KNOW this - good to read it again and remember - I am day 12.

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Posted 28 June 2008 - 12:14 AM

That's so true Eric,

Because after you were quit for so long and took that cigarette and inhaled it into your lungs, it was like starting smoking from the beginning.. You went through the same process of getting that first puff of smoke into the lungs..

After that it was all downhill. :cry: I think we can all remember the first cigarette, when you got sick, nauseous, dizzy... But after that it was just like I need another!!.

Only way to beat this addiction is to" Never Take Another PUff"

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Posted 28 June 2008 - 07:05 AM

very inspiring post, thank you Eric. I will come back to this one again in a time of need.

I think we can all remember the first cigarette, when you got sick, nauseous, dizzy... But after that it was just like I need another!!.

yeah I used to say after I kind of quit for a few days and went back to smoke one," the first one was terrible I need another one right away to get the taste out of my mouth" :roll: :shock: .....Junkie
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#17 Lynn Reay

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Posted 28 June 2008 - 04:35 PM

Its always the good cigarette you remember but its all the thousands after you have to think of
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#18 patti1953

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Posted 12 July 2008 - 09:29 PM

BUMP for Michelle or anyone who might need this today.
Take care of you, Patti
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Posted 12 July 2008 - 09:48 PM

Eric, I think you may need to start your own site and messageboard. Your posts are TRULY inspiring.

Thanks for everything!!!!
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Posted 13 July 2008 - 11:30 AM

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