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#1 Stzr500

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Posted 20 March 2017 - 11:33 PM

I did not have  a good day today. Still loaded with anxiety and cravings...it has settled down a bit but wow another blast and crying and all that other BS stuff. I just cannot believe how one day is okay and another is just pure havoc. Then to top it off a certified letter from the IRS comes today. Panic attack here we go holy s..t hang on. I thought for a split second on a cig and about gagged thinking about one. Got to love the ole fight or flight trigger. Anyway the letter was for me messing up last year and that they kept some of my return this year...no big deal. My question is why do things that haven't worried me so much in the past now have me in a full blown panic attack ???? WTH gives...I thought by now things would be getting better. I guess the body can heal quick sometimes, but I guess the soul takes a long time.


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Posted 20 March 2017 - 11:48 PM

This is a rough road with a lot of blind curves, potholes and unmarked speed bumps.We can't expect to undo something we spent years doing in just a few short weeks. It's going to take a while.

Each day is a challenge and each day we face that challenge and look forward to the next.

 

Soon enough, we'll be looking back on these awful days with a fondness only we can appreciate.

 

We're committed to this and no matter how hard it gets, we'll deal with it. We may moan and groan, but at the end of the day, we're committed and that's that.

 

Stay strong! You're killin' this!


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Posted 20 March 2017 - 11:49 PM

It's just the additional from quitting that adds to the anxiety we run into from day to day issues. Small things become a big deal quickly. Just stop and think next time you start getting upset. Take some deep breaths and relax. Try to think rationally about your situation before letting yourself slip into a panic attack. Unfortunately for most of us, the added anxiety remains far longer than we'd like. I will disappear eventually once your mind adjusts to the "new you". Stay strong and just NOPE your way through it :)


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Posted 20 March 2017 - 11:56 PM

Sorry you're having a tough day stzr, those surprise triggers are the worst! That being said, you need to realize that you've just begun your non smoking journey. Some of us do great fast and others (me) take months. Yes, it does get better month to month and the good days do start outnumbering the bad eventually.
Also my new favorite saying is from Nancy who said "Always keep in mind, you are not going through this because you quit...you are going through this because you smoked."
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#5 marciem

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Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:54 AM

I did not have  a good day today. Still loaded with anxiety and cravings...it has settled down a bit but wow another blast and crying and all that other BS stuff. I just cannot believe how one day is okay and another is just pure havoc. Then to top it off a certified letter from the IRS comes today. Panic attack here we go holy s..t hang on. I thought for a split second on a cig and about gagged thinking about one. Got to love the ole fight or flight trigger. Anyway the letter was for me messing up last year and that they kept some of my return this year...no big deal. My question is why do things that haven't worried me so much in the past now have me in a full blown panic attack ???? WTH gives...I thought by now things would be getting better. I guess the body can heal quick sometimes, but I guess the soul takes a long time.

You smoked for 30+ years, so no, your body and soul are not going to heal in 2 months... more like 3 to 6 months... but i'm betting if you look back at week one, two or three you can definitely see improvements.

 

and you're also seeing that "roller coaster effect"... just like a roller coaster, there are calm times and golden days... right before everything goes to he// in a handbasket emotionally :)  .  The only way off this ride permanently is to hang on tight and NOT SMOKE.  Otherwise you're doomed to either go thru all this again, or smoke the rest of your (possibly shortened, definitely not free) life.

 

It's perfectly normal to get worried about letters from the IRS... we all do that.  Heightened fear attacks are also normal at your stage of quitting.


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Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:24 AM

Hey Stzr500, I can also relate to the heightened anxiety associated with nicotine withdrawal. :|   I've found that doing some basic breathing yoga exercises helps   :) Below I've included 2 links, one of them even has a video that demonstrates one of those exercises - the 4-7-8- Relaxing Breath Exercise.Check them out if you want to and I hope they help you out too.Good luck! :)

 

https://www.drweil.c...ree-exercises/ 

 

https://www.drweil.c...-demonstration/


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Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:30 AM

Stzr500,

This is normal behaviour for an ex smoker early in their quit.

You see, now that you have decided to quit this habit, everything that stresses you out takes your mind back to when you WERE a smoker.

This or that stressed me out...I used to grab that cig and make it better...BUT...did it??

Everything is the same now, except now you have to deal with stress without cigarettes.

Think about it..if you smoked that cigarette..what would have changed the situation.....

That's right nothing...just smoking.

So...what's the point in stressing out...you are healthier, wealthier and wiser now that you can cope without that cigarette.

Most days as a smoker, without thinking, we would grab that cigarette and think that it was calming us down. When in fact, all we were doing was adding to our problems, because then there would be another smoked and another and another etc.

Find an activity that will help overcome these times..eg take a walk, watch tv, read a magazine..whatever...

You are nearly 30 days free of this addiction.. be PROUD of yourself.

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