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#1 Poprini

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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:14 AM

No I'm not trying to hypnotise you or play Jedi mind tricks. :) I'm talking about relapsers or quitters who continue to have smoking thoughts and desires.

 

Nobody WANTS to go back to smoking. They quit because they want to quit (for whatever reason). What they want from time to time is to smoke. And what that means is something else. It means all of the things that people "like" about smoking:

 

A break in the day

Stress relief

Bonding time with buddies

Anxiety relief

Thinking time

Reward for finishing a job

 

etc

 

And it also means not having to THINK about not smoking all the time. Gawd I remember that. I remember thinking - "When will it ever end?...I just want to stop thinking about not smoking!" I see people saying it here all the time "I don't want to fight with myself any more! When will it end?!"

 

But it's not that you want to be a smoker again.

 

I reckon most smokers don't want to be smokers! If you gave someone a choice between being a smoker (with all the expense and smell and health fears and social shaming etc that goes with it) and being a happy non-smoker - of course they would choose the latter. But most smokers simply don't believe they can be happy without smoking. They believe they LOVE and need their cigarettes too much to live without them.

 

And when we quit it (generally) takes a lot of retraining for the brain to dismiss all of that addiction thinking and learn that we can actually get all of those good things in other ways without all the bad stuff you get with smoking. Some people are lucky and once they make the decision to quit, they are solid in it. Easy peasy. But lots of people struggle. And that's OK. The struggle is part of the process. Embrace it as part of the process. Look at it as the price of freedom. That's basically how I did it. I wanted freedom most of all. Freedom from smoking addiction and everything that went with it. The price became easier to pay over time. It took less. Every now and then I have a "want" to smoke but it's fleeting and easy to dismiss. Because I KNOW I do not want to be a smoker. No way.

 

Make a commitment to yourself. A promise. Promise yourself that you will never be a smoker again. And don't worry if you want to smoke from time to time. That's fine, because you know that it's really about something else and you definitely don't want to be a smoker again. No way. Ewgh.


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:24 AM

Thanks, I needed this tonight! I'm out of likes, but a million likes. :)
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#3 Poprini

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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:36 AM

Thanks, I needed this tonight! I'm out of likes, but a million likes. :)

 

Thanks darlin - I really appreciate hearing that. Have a great night


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:45 AM

Awesome post Poprini, it helps…. :)


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:53 AM

Poprini.............my fellow Aussie....

 

You......just......nailed......it........

 

 

Love ya

 

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Posted 20 June 2014 - 03:53 AM

Wonderful and needed reminder that you can't smoke unless you want to be a smoker again, and you don't ....so don't. 


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 04:52 AM

Li- I always read your post cos I always know I will love them - awesome as usual ! :-)
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Posted 20 June 2014 - 10:07 AM

Well that makes sense but it didn't seem like that the times I quit before. I did think most of the time that I wished I could smoke and that it was too much for me to give up. It seems really stupid to me now but that is how I was.
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Posted 20 June 2014 - 10:45 AM

Perfect!


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 10:59 AM

Amazing..So inspiring..I am really serious about quitting smoking and really thank you for inspiring me again..


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 08:52 PM

Amazing..So inspiring..I am really serious about quitting smoking and really thank you for inspiring me again..




Like Marciem's signature says, "Better to be a nonsmoker with an occasional desire to smoke, than a smoker with a constant desire to quit"

This is doable for you IanCallanan, we are here for you to help as needed. Let us know when you are ready and remember, nl time better than now........

Great post Poprini, dead center to the point and so truthful.....Bassman
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Posted 20 June 2014 - 09:01 PM

Great post Poprini..


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Posted 20 June 2014 - 11:58 PM

I love this post, Li!!


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 01:30 AM

Thanks you guys. Have a great weekend. X

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Posted 21 June 2014 - 03:00 AM

Very nicely written.  Well done.


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 04:54 AM

Excellent!! :D

Thanks Li!


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 04:17 PM

Loving the post....


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 08:39 PM


 

 

 

 

And it also means not having to THINK about not smoking all the time. Gawd I remember that. I remember thinking - "When will it ever end?...I just want to stop thinking about not smoking!" I see people saying it here all the time "I don't want to fight with myself any more! When will it end?!"

 

 

 

 

Thank you Poprini,

 

Giving it a year to calm down and be normal.  Much of the time it is normal now but sometimes, well, not so much.  I appreciate you taking the time to talk about it because sometimes when it strikes, we forget all of the things we learned or read and are just hanging on for the moment.  So thanks Poprini for your post today.  It made a difference for me.


 


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 08:44 PM

Awesome post Poprini!!!


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 08:54 PM

Thanks Poprini.  I think this is what I really needed right now.  I just posted on another thread that I sometimes want to sit down and just cry because I wish I had never become a smoker to begin with.  I hate these cravings, I hate these feelings, but what I would hate even more is to still be a smoker right now.  I know it will get better as time goes on, but I just really wish I had never put that first cigarette in my mouth and sucked.  I was only 12 years old for gosh sakes!  What was I thinking?

 

But, you struck a nerve.  I really don't want to be a smoker, therefore I really don't want to smoke. 

 

Thank you friend.


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